Thursday, May 28, 2009

What is it about India?

I have been trying to put my finger on just what it is about this country that I love. Although I haven’t been able to draw any conclusions, I have had fun reminiscing about ongoing quirks or funny experiences I’ve had in this culture.

1. There’s always room for one more in any mode of transportation. Family of 4? One motorcycle’s all you need. Have a matchbox car? That’ll fit 7-8 people, easy.

2. It is always appropriate to answer your cell phone, even in the middle of a meeting. Leaving the room is optional. (I have been informed that voicemail does exist, but it’s impossible to retrieve messages, so voicemail does not exist here.)

3. If something is scheduled to begin at a specific time, be sure to arrive at least an hour later. Recently, I went to a wedding that was scheduled for 4:30. We arrived at 5:50, just as the ceremony began.

4. When meeting someone on the street, it is always appropriate to ask “कहाँ जा रही हैं?" “Where are you going?” or “आप खाना खायी हैं” “Have you eaten?”

5. It is inappropriate to ignore the above questions when asked. The correct answers are always “Around” and “Yes. I have eaten.”

6. It is appropriate to inform a person if he or she has gained weight. Even though I ‘have reduced’ this year, I am still considered ‘मोटी’ (fat).

7. The electricity can and will go out at any time. Prepare with mobiles and torches (flashlights).

8. The electricity will stay off for any random length of time. Most common is 1-2 hours, but be prepared to be in the dark for 8 hours…or 5 minutes.

9. If it rains, one can assume that any and all planned activities are cancelled for the rest of the day. Even so, my experience indicates that most activities continue as planned, just with fewer people. (I will see if this ‘rule’ changes now that monsoon season is beginning!)

10. Sarees are not as horrible to wear as some foreigners would have you think. I make up reasons to wear my sarees and enjoy every minute of it.

11. When greeting the foreigner walking down the road, children are taught to always use their best English. “Good morning, Didi” is used at all times of the day, until one kid smacks another on the shoulder and says, “It’s evening!” This comment is then followed by another chorus of “Good evening, Didi!”

12. If you see a foreigner in a restaurant, it is acceptable to stare. If you get up enough courage, send your little girl over to ask (in her best English) “What is your name?” For bonus points, send her a second time to ask, “Where are you from?” Feel free to continue to stare. (Oh, yes this happened! The Indo-foreigners Gang can verify it.)

13. Tailors do not understand the concept of loose-fitting clothes. Yes, I’m sure I don’t want my arm flab bulging out from my sleeves, thank you very much!

14. Always charge a “foreigner tax” when transporting foreigners in your taxi/auto/rickshaw. This tax at least doubles a reasonable fare. If the foreigner somehow knows what the fair price should be, gasp and look appalled that she would even suggest such low price. Only negotiate when she walks away.

15. If you are in a hurry and the line is too long in the grocery store, walk around the cash registers and put your merchandise at the other end of the counter. Sometimes the cashier will take your items before helping the customer who has waited patiently for his/her turn to check out. (This doesn’t work most of the time…it only causes an uproar by the people who have been waiting in line, but there’s always at least one person who does this every time I go to the store.)

16. Any daily task can take much longer than anticipated. For example, one time I was waiting in line at the grocery store. I was next in line to be checked out. The electricity blinked off and back on, but the cashiers’ system froze and no one could check out. By the time they rebooted the whole system (amidst all of the customers jockeying for position in the line that could open first), my cashier disappeared. I seriously considered trying #15, but then just took my place in a different line and paid…45 minutes later than anticipated.

17. There is no such thing as personal space when waiting in line. Pushing the person in front of you somehow gets you there faster, and if there is a counter, crowd to the side of the person currently being helped and shove your paperwork or money toward the worker. (Luckily, the rules bend a bit when ladies have to wait in the men’s line. Leave at least a little bit of air between men and ladies.)

18. A ladies’ line is always available at rail ticket and post offices. When the line is all ladies, the pushing rule is in full effect.

19. Be sure you are in the right line. Banks are confusing enough that you may wait for an hour in one line, get to the front and find out that you need to use a different counter.

20. Never take your toothbrush into the bathroom on the train. (See my “Smile” post on 28 Dec 2008 for a more complete explanation.)

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

The Indo-foreigners Gang

So much has been happening. Sorry it took me so long to let you in on it. Most of my time outside of work is spent with Pastor Rakesh and Leni Paul. They have a ministry here in Ranchi, reaching out to the young people in the city. I’ve been able to take part in their Youth Impact program and Impact City Church that began several months ago. It has been such a blessing to join them in their vision to make an impact on young people, who can then impact their society here in Ranchi, and in India.
Leni is from Brazil, and she came to India a few years ago. She married Rakesh in 2006 and they moved to Ranchi about a month before I got here. It’s been great to talk with her about her experiences in India too. Some things about India just can’t be explained to Indians. And Indians can’t explain them either! It’s nice to have another “western” perspective. I’m sure that Brazil and the US are completely different cultures, but compared to India, they seem the same to me!
Rakesh and Leni have basically adopted me. Every week we’re going somewhere or doing something. Usually, Rakesh’s good friend Pastor Finni joins us. The four of us are together so much that we’ve been dubbed the “Indo-foreigners gang”. Many of our outings involve prayer meetings and Bible studies, but we also make time to just hang out. Every week, we travel across town to our other friends’ house to watch downloaded episodes of 24 in HD on their big screen. Never thought I’d do that in India! (By the way, I am now totally addicted to 24…I’m sure all of you 24 fans out there know exactly what I’m talking about!)
It is going to be very hard to leave this place and these people. I had prayed for connections and relationships to begin here. My prayer has been answered, and now I realize that having these relationships makes it so much harder to think about going away.
People keep asking me when I will return to Ranchi. It’s never a question of “if,” it’s “when?” And I wish I’d have an answer. I wish I could say, “January. In January I will come back to visit.” Or “in 2 years.” Sometimes I forget just how far away from Ohio India actually is. I can’t just come visit for a weekend. I really don’t know when I will return to see my Ranchians. I’m glad I still have 2 months before I leave.

Sunday, May 17, 2009

In the News

I’m famous! Okay, not really. But I did get my picture in a local newspaper. I attended a Christian Leaders Conference in Ranchi. So when the paper wrote an article about the conference, of course they needed pictures.



I really didn’t want my picture in the paper, because I really don’t think I should be big news. But I’ll admit, it is kinda cool to have my picture surrounded by a bunch of Hindi! (Who cares if the caption says I’m praying when my eyes are open and I’m clapping!)